Myth No 10: Resilient people face fewer problems than others do, so they look like they cope better.

Everyone faces situations and challenges in life which require resilience. And it’s not just about the major traumas and losses. We need resilience just to get through each day with hope, perspective and the energy to make each day count. We have all had, and will have, our resilience tested to some degree. Anyone who has not experienced major trauma thus far is incredibly fortunate. And yet, even with those relatively unscathed by great hardships can still feel stressed and as if they are merely surviving and getting through life. And, by the same token, some of the most resilient people are those who have experienced severe trauma yet appear to be thriving in the face of adversity.

Approximately 50% of people who face severe challenges go on to experience what is known as ‘post traumatic growth’. But PTG doesn’t happen accidentally – it requires learning the lessons. Consciously seeking growth, meaning and purpose in your life regardless of pain, loss or disappointment in order to rise above your circumstances.  As Viktor Frankl said, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Authentically Resilient people choose not to let their circumstances define them, rather they integrate them to allow them to live a life of thriving versus merely surviving.