“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens” – Khalil Gibran
In the 3rd R of Authentic Resilience we talk about Response-ability. No, that is not a spelling mistake, it is about our Ability to Respond to what happens to us in life. Much of what happens to us in life is not our doing, we have not created it -it is random. In such circumstances one can feel like a victim, be outraged as we did nothing to create this, we did not bring this upon ourselves. How is it possible then, when bad things happen to us, to develop a stance that stays open and curious, that accepts the good and the bad, and maintains perspective?
One answer to this is an attitude of gratitude. This can seem like an impossible feat, especially when times are tough, but the secret is a daily practice of gratitude. Start right now – start today! One of the practices which we introduce to those on our Authentic Resilience Workshops is starting a Three Good Things practice: at the end of every day list – either to yourself in your head, or in a journal, or to family members, three things which you are grateful for today. On bad days it can be a struggle to name even one! Perhaps it could just be the fact that you are grateful that you got through the day and are now in bed. And here’s the tricky bit..you can’t just ramble off the same things every day, “I’m grateful for my home, my family, my dog” – you need to be creative and notice the small things that you can be grateful for.
This is a practice that works. Why don’t you commit to do the Three Good Things practice for the next month, starting from today. And check in with yourself at the end of the month – is it easier to spot the things we can be grateful for? How are you feeling now? And have you managed to cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
Written by Pippa Shaper